Part 1 of our INDEFINABLE words and HARD TO ANSWER questions segment of our broadcast... Why We Love...
Most of us have been there at one point; the ones who haven't will get theirs, eventually. IT IS INESCAPABLE....
There you are, innocently sitting there, eating your Cheerios or some other tasty snack, when it hits you. That flash of lightning that zips through your brain, jump starts your heart to the point of acrobatics, and sends the corners of your mouth into that half-circle of upward idiocy because that stupid grin won't stop spreading.
An image of the love of your life burns itself into your brain like a cheap plasma TV screen. Yup--it's love, and its got you in its grips. Muu ahhhhhahhhh.
If none of this sounds familiar to you--don't worry--you simply have no soul. ;) Just kidding--like I said, you'll get yours and it'll be just as described with different metaphors.
Not ever being privvy to this feeling does not preclude you from this blog question, though; no doubt, you've seen what looks like and that's as much as you need for this assignment.
First, define love. Nbd. Thousands upon thousands of poets, essayists, philosophers and the like have all tried to come up with a working definition--whose to say their version is better than yours? Do your best.
Have you ever been in love, or known someone who has?
Did their behavior change? Did yours?
Why do you think we are attracted to those we are?
What do you look for in potential relationships?
What is your idea of a "perfect" relationship?
Who taught you about love?
What is your earliest memory of "seeing" love?
Does that memory affect how you view the idea of love?
And, finally, what will you teach your future sons and daughters about the idea of love and relationships? Think about this one, and imagine what you wish you knew...
There you are, innocently sitting there, eating your Cheerios or some other tasty snack, when it hits you. That flash of lightning that zips through your brain, jump starts your heart to the point of acrobatics, and sends the corners of your mouth into that half-circle of upward idiocy because that stupid grin won't stop spreading.
An image of the love of your life burns itself into your brain like a cheap plasma TV screen. Yup--it's love, and its got you in its grips. Muu ahhhhhahhhh.
If none of this sounds familiar to you--don't worry--you simply have no soul. ;) Just kidding--like I said, you'll get yours and it'll be just as described with different metaphors.
Not ever being privvy to this feeling does not preclude you from this blog question, though; no doubt, you've seen what looks like and that's as much as you need for this assignment.
First, define love. Nbd. Thousands upon thousands of poets, essayists, philosophers and the like have all tried to come up with a working definition--whose to say their version is better than yours? Do your best.
Have you ever been in love, or known someone who has?
Did their behavior change? Did yours?
Why do you think we are attracted to those we are?
What do you look for in potential relationships?
What is your idea of a "perfect" relationship?
Who taught you about love?
What is your earliest memory of "seeing" love?
Does that memory affect how you view the idea of love?
And, finally, what will you teach your future sons and daughters about the idea of love and relationships? Think about this one, and imagine what you wish you knew...
Love is feeling fireworks the second you look at someone. As if someone had hypnotized you to think that one person is perfect. Nothing else matters when you’ve fallen in love. Gazing in each others eyes, time is limitless. You can see right through a person yet it feels like they’re a galaxy worth exploring. To every question there are answers and to every answer there are questions. Then one day your heart feels as if a boulder was maliciously dropped on it. Your never ending tears could fill up an ocean. And questions keep arising yet never answered anymore. Nothing was ever perfect, since you were hypnotized, you couldn’t see reality. Truth is love hurts.
ReplyDeleteI have been in love before. My behavior did change, my voice was always high pitch. And I would always dress extremely girly. I’m already extra so I was just extra x10. Their behavior--yeah, it did change. You know it’s crazy how much boys open up to you when they like you.
I think we’re attracted to those we are, because we find qualities we approve of in that person. Or similar experiences you’ve both have gone through makes the other person more appealing.
What I look for in a potential relationship would be:
Emotional maturity.
Accountability.
Honesty.
Respect.
Independence.
Empathetic.
Funny.
Outgoing.
Outdoorsy.
My perfect relationship would be with someone I can have fun with, they would be respectful, and will think before they act. I want to be with someone that will just call me and tell me to get ready because we’re going to go on a 16 mile hike. Or just to go skinny dipping at 1 am for no reason. Yet be able to stay home and eat 3 boxes of pizza while playing Mario kart.
My friends and my parents taught me about it. My earliest memories of love would honestly be all the Disney movies. When I was growing up I used to LOVE Peter Pan. I always wanted him to be my boyfriend. But now watching the movie again I just think he’s such an a-hole, what was six year old Alex thinking? I don’t know.
I do think that the Disney movies in general did affect how I viewed love growing up. And how the girl was supposed to just wait for her Prince Charming. However now that I kind of have a general understating of the feeling, I think it’s so much more than that. I feel as
If a girl likes someone, she should tell them. I think there’s no shame in expressing your feelings to somebody you like. It’s the 21st century, it’s not like women can’t vote. I abhor how some girls just say how they’re scared of confessing their feelings, like what are you scared of? What do you have to lose? If you get rejected then oh well. Build a bridge and get over it. If they are a real friend, after some time, they will overlook it and things should just be back to what they once were. If not then sorry but that’s some small dick energy and that person doesn't deserve to have you in their life.
I’m not really planning on having children whatsoever. BUT IF I WERE ON SOME ALTERNATE UNIVERSE: I would teach them everything my parents have, which is almost everything I’ve written in here so far. I would teach them to not let everything slide and to trust their intuition. Because in the end little problems are the ones that cause the breakups.
What is love? That is a hard question. Everyone will define love differently. To me there are different loves in the world, each having different meanings. The main definition that I think of when I think of love would be, a feeling that you get when you would do anything for a specific person and you do not know what you would do without them.
ReplyDeleteI believe I am currently in love and I don't want to admit that on here for people to read. A lot of people will think "You're only 16 you can't be in love" but I think I am. I've had previous boyfriends in the past and yeah at the time I loved them but I was never in love with them. I was just about to type saying that I don't think my behavior has changed but then I realized it has. I talk about my boyfriend all the time, I text him all the time, and I think about him often. In the beginning of the relationship I did not talk about him that much but now I do.
For me I am attracted to solely personality. I could care less if the person I am attracted to has a six pack or has a Santa Claus belly. In a potential relationship I want my significant other to be: Kind, Loyal, Honest. I want the person to talk with me often, I want them to say nice things to me, I definitely need them to have a sense of humor, and I can't have them hold me back.
My perfect relationship would be someone I can be comfortable around, someone I can laugh with, and someone who loves me for me.
I think that nobody really taught me what love is. I always knew that love was a thing but I had to discover it on my own. In relationships I have learned to give and receive love whether it was with friends, family, or my partners. I just was able to acknowledge and feel love through the environment I was in. My earliest memories of love would probably be in movies. I don't know what specific movie it would be but just any movie. In most movie their are some sort of love in it. The love in the movie could either be with family, friends, sports, couples. Any of those things are most of the time in movies. In movies we are given the ideal picture of love but that isn't always how it is. Prince Charming wont always swipe you off your feet, so that does give a somewhat different expectation of love.
With my future kids I will teach them that in every relationship that they have they WILL be respected. I would not like them to just settle because they do not think they have a chance with anyone else. I would like them to now that there is love in the world and they are loved.
ReplyDeleteAhhhh love, it is one of my favorite things to talk about. It is that warm fuzzy feeling you get just thinking about a special someone and you just want to invest all of your time into them. It is rare and hard to find the right one to give all of your love to but once you do, you’ll just know that is the person for you. I one hundred percent do believe wait no I know that I have been in love before, I am right now. I have only had one boyfriend before and he will most likely be the only one ever. I know what you are thinking if you are reading this how can I be so sure about someone when I am only 17? You would have to know my boyfriend Louie to understand why I am so sure. My behavior definitely changed over this past year and a half now. Thanks to him I have changed for the better if I am being honest I use to be a complete asshole and just a bitch to anyone. Now I am a happy, positive, and loving person, I am now on top of my school work, I try to always look at the bright side. His behavior has changed a bit too, I am not going to sit here and explain his whole life story but I believe I have helped bring him out of his shell and become less of a shy person. I have seen him grow to become this loving, funny, outgoing man and he is just wonderful. I think we are attracted to those who resemble yourself in a way because that is what I look for. Someone who can relate to me and my stories and upbringing. I look for someone who is funny, kind, smart, makes me smile, is a good human being inside and out. I learned about love from watching movies growing up, and reading about it as a little girl. I loved learning about loved and always seeked it but never really received it often. My earliest memory of seeing love was my dad (not biological but helped raised me, he is my step dad though) and my mother. They use to get along so well and always did everything together they were at one point in love then sixth grade came around and that all blew up and I hadn’t seen love again until the end of my sophomore year. I have my own ideas about love that can’t really be affected anymore by that memory of my parents just because I am now so independent and can think for myself. The one most important thing I want my child to know about love is this: love takes time and it is important that you do not try to rush it, it will come around one day and it will be phenomenal.
Love. That’s probably the hardest thing I’ve ever had to define. You can’t just look in a dictionary and the definition be there. I mean you can technically, but it’ll never even scratch the surface. Love is that feeling you get when you’re around the person you care about most. The person you fell for, and stayed there. It’s such an easy feeling to notice, but impossible to understand. You never want to be apart. You want their arms around you for the entirety of your life, keeping you safe no matter who you are. Love is that feeling you get when you can be yourself, and break down to someone. When you know they’ll understand that you have feelings and need to express them. It’s so complicated to describe, but it’s such a wonderful feeling.
ReplyDeleteHave I ever been in love? That’s a tough one. I’m a teenager. I’m going to claim I’ve “loved” all my exes, and that I always will. But the truth is that’s not being honest. I have been in love. Once out of a million times. I remember the difference from then and now. I was willing to vent. I wasn’t as morbid as I am about everything today. I had a goal in life that wasn’t completely selfish. Her demeanor changed too. She began to open up, not only to me, but to the people around her. She began to trust, and be trusted. It was the biggest change I’ve seen in a person, and I never thought I’d come to regret it so much.
I have no idea how the human mind works anymore. I don’t understand why we fall for the people we do, myself especially. All I know is that you feel something there, some spark or flash of light, and suddenly that person takes over your mind.
A potential relationship? I honestly can’t answer this one. I just want to go with life and see where it takes me. I never have a plan.
Maybe I never look for the perfect relationship, but I definitely have an idea at my perfect relationship. Forget the physical part at all. I just want someone I can talk to. Someone who doesn’t have to understand the things that go on in my life to listen. But I want them to trust me as much as I do them. I want them to be willing to talk to me about anything, and open up about their feelings as much as I do. That’s really it for my perfect relationship.
No one taught me about love. I was on my own from the start, and I had to live through every emotion before I understood what they were, and just how much they could affect me.
My earliest memory of seeing love was probably my grandparents. They had a bond that I’ve never seen before. After I lived with my parents for years, I had no idea what love was. All I ever saw was fighting and arguing. Eventually my mom passed and we moved in with my grandparents. That’s when I saw something that changed my life. I’ll never understand it, but they were like kids. They seemed so interested in each other 24/7, no matter what happened around them. They were so invested in each other that they barely had time for anyone else. The physical connection wasn’t there, since they were getting older, but they had a bond you could just feel in the air. One that you were so scared to touch, for fear that it would consume you. They never left each other’s side, through thick and thin. After seeing what they had, I realized I wanted a relationship just like theirs in my future.
I grew up in a household where love was never a thing. There was no affection, no caring, nothing but spite for one another. I want the opportunity to show my kids a different life. I want the opportunity to show them that I love them, and that no matter what happened in my childhood there’s will be great. I want them to see me and my wife the way I saw my grandparents, and feel the bond I felt. It’s so much easier to get through life when you know feelings like that exist, and I want them to know that. To yearn for the same love I did as a child. To be able to live a full life in every way. I can’t sit my kids down and talk about love. It’s just not possible for me. But that doesn’t mean they can’t see it everyday, in everything they do.
1 Corinthians 13:4-8
ReplyDeleteLove is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. That's the best way i can describe love.
I have been in love. Yes. My priorities changed, my attitude changed and my time distribution changed because i had another priority in my life i needed to invest attention into, time into and emotion and effort into. I am attracted to my girlfriend because of the things we have in common, however also the things we don’t have in common. She has attributes that i lack and it’s the same vise versa. We anchor each other and in turn we grow together and support one another.
I look for compatibility, and good conversation at first. As the relationship grows, i make a mental pros and cons list of attributes that are compatible and incompatible with my own.
My idea of a perfect relationship honestly, would be the one i have right now. We argue, we fight, we make up, and we grow and learn with each other. We share emotions, a bond, and our experiences with each other. She's not perfect, and neither am i, and that creates an imperfect relationship, but frankly, no relationship is perfect. It’s about having a relationship that keeps you both happy.
I learned about love from movies. Mainly disney. Seeing a special connection between a man and a woman. I learned more about love from a number of Adam Sandler movies like “50 First Dates, Blended, etc” For the most part, i learned about love through media and movies.
I first saw love at my grandparents house. My grandmother was always sick and bedridden and my grandpa always took care of her and loved her unconditionally. That's what i try to measure up to in a relationship. Seeing how much love, time and care, my grandfather always put into keeping my grandmother well,(even today when he goes there daily to do maintenance and leave flowers at her grave) always makes me think about the little things or just things i can do for my significant other to show her i care.
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ReplyDeleteLove. Some people say that it’s the best feeling in the world. Others say that it could be the one thing that breaks you apart in so many different way. I don’t think that I have experienced enough to truly tell what love is. I think that love can be defined in so many different ways. I believe love is the feeling that you are invincible around the person that you truly have interest in. The warm feeling that takes over your whole body when you see this person, hear this person, or even see something that reminds you of that special someone. Love is one of the best things that can ever happen to somebody in this world. It fills you with so much happiness, excitement, and joy. You invest so much time and care into this one person who you truly find happiness in. Have I ever been in love? The answer is simple. Yes. I believe that sometimes when you are in love, you are doing things that you don’t even realize that you are doing. My attitude changed to the point where I had no idea what I was doing. Sometimes in order for me to get him to notice me, I would talk really loud in hopes of him noticing me. On days that I saw him, I would care about my outfit and how I looked more than anything. I believed to think that everything of my outer appearance became more important than anything else. Everything else in the world didn’t matter. I think that one of the main reason why we are attracted to who we are is how we look at people. We set our own standards of who we like and if we see somebody that holds that standard that we look for, we see them in a relationship. Something that I look for in a potential relationship would be trust and honesty. I think that these two are the most important factors in a relationship. In order to give somebody your love, they have to show that they can be trusted in order for this relationship to survive. My idea of a perfect relationship is finding somebody that I can be funny around, but at the same time I can pour my heart out to them without them judging me. I want to find the person that will understand how I feel and make me one of their priorities. As long as we’re both putting in the effort and keeping each other happy, that is how I want my perfect relationship. I was never introduced to the topic love, until in 2nd or 3rd grade when I watched Cinderella. Cinderella was one of the first Disney movies that I’ve watched, and ever since then, typical Disney movies taught me about love. My parents never really taught me about love since they were always working and I never really saw them as a kid, so I had to turn to movies and books to find out about what this magical feeling really is. My earliest memory of seeing love is when Prince Charming found the rightful owner of the slipper, Cinderella. It was so magical. Like any other Disney movie, the love that is portrayed throughout most of the movies, will probably never happen. My poor six year old heart was so broken to find out that I would never find Prince Charming coming to my house and slipping a pair of glass slippers on my feet. This really never changed my way on viewing the whole idea of love because if I had to make the effort, I’ll go out and find Prince Charming myself. I believe that there really is nothing wrong with telling how you feel to somebody, however I am also the type of person that is deadly afraid of rejection. The moment when you pour all your emotions out and telling somebody how you really feel to have them completely reject you is truly heartbreaking. Been there, done that!!
ReplyDeleteLove, according to a Google, is "an intense feeling of deep affection." But, love is much more than that. Love is described differently by many people, but to me, love is that feeling when you see or think about someone and can't stop smiling. The feeling that you don't know what you would do without them or laughing with someone that you love, not being able to stop. Love is pure happiness, and if you get the chance to experience that, you'll never want it to end. Sure, every relationship has its "lovey dovey" phase, but real love is being able to stay in that phase forever. I don't know if I'm in love, because I've never been in love before. So, I don't fully know what that means yet. But, if I'm not in love, I'm pretty close. At first, I was shy around him. I'm shy around everyone at first, but as time went on, I became comfortable around him. The first time we hung out together, neither of us really talked that much. But, now I literally don't shut up. So, in that way, I guess both of our behaviors changed because we're both open to each other and tell each other everything. Other than that, I can't think of a way that either of our behaviors have changed. I feel as if we're attracted to those we are because we they're just like us. Despite our differences in some things, my boyfriend and I have a lot in common. We are attracted to those who we have things in common with, because we can relate to them. That goes for friendships, too. We want to be able to connect with those we love and have something to talk about or relate with.
ReplyDeleteIn my ideal relationship, I feel as if honesty, loyalty and a shoulder to lean on when you're down are the most important things that hold a relationship together. Without loyalty and honesty, you can;t trust your significant other and it would be so unhealthy if you were checking in on them all the time. It isn't fair to either one of you. Having someone to go to and be able to talk to about anything is also a big part in relationships. If you can't get what's on your chest off by talking to your significant other or being able to talk to them about anything, then they might not be the one for you. You need to be comfortable to talk to them, even if it's about the hard things. I'm very grateful to be able to go to him and vent and say whatever I need to, and he always helps by calming me down, helping me with the situation, or just being there for me in general.
My earliest memory of seeing love and who taught me about love was my parents. From the start, my parents always showed me that they cared about each other and would go out of their ways to show that. They would always be there for each other, even when times got hard. We always spent time as a family. Although this love of theirs didn't last, I'm still happy that I got to see it when they still loved each other like that. The memory of my parent's love does somewhat impact my view on love, but it showed me that in relationships, you need to show the person you care. These days, some people think it's "weak" or "stupid" to show your emotions or that you care, but I think that's stupid. If you love them and are about them, show them. Love is a very special and rare thing to find, and if you do find it, you need to cherish that and love that person unconditionally.
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ReplyDeleteLove is being accepting and feeling accepted. But it’s also one of the best feelings. Sometimes it makes your heart want to explode where other times it’s just a warm feeling that is very difficult to explain. But then again it’s different for everyone, so take that how you want!
ReplyDeleteTruthfully, I’d prefer to say I’ve never been in love. At my age it seems pretty cliché to say I’m in love, but that’s just how I feel now, I know things change my opinion all the time so I don’t want to be quick to assume. Of course I’ve felt love for and from people but I never really know if it’s ‘love’ itself.
I definitely know people who are in love though and it’s the cutest thing I’ve ever seen, honestly. It’s like you can tell they’d do anything for each other, that part about love I get. They’re behavior definitely changes, it’s like when you see a puppy and you go into an instant baby voice, almost like it’s natural for you. When a love between two is mutual it’s a really secure feeling, something everyone should experience.
We’re attracted to those we are because we’re looking for ourselves in someone else. Someone who can not only relate to you but give a sense of comfort when you can’t help yourself.
Now for the juicy stuff, what do I look for in potential relationships? HUMOR. If someone doesn’t make you laugh, why would you ever want to be with them? I’m not going to get specific with details but another is, someone who wants to understand me. Just knowing someone is there because they want to be there means more to me than anything else. So I guess you could correlate that to someone who puts in effort or just cares in general. Another is maturity but that’s self explanatory.
There is no perfect relationship and honestly a relationship without bumps in the road is boring. Everyone knows what I mean by that. A little mix of disagreement with each other is never bad and makes two people closer in the end. Trying to have a perfect relationship will 9/10 times ruin everything before it even begins. Rather, what I’d be happy with in a relationship is trust, if I can trust someone and they trust me that’s all I can ask for.
I taught love to myself, I was never showed a perfect couple by my parents nor family, so I’ve learned on my own with “extreme caution”. Anyone who is close to me knows exactly what I mean, I tend to pull away before something goes wrong. But recently I haven’t done that which is really strange and I don’t know why, I guess it’s me and that whole “learning how to love” thing.
I don’t remember ever really seeing love, of course I received it from my mom and family but that’s not the same type of love. Never have I ever see my mom head over heels for someone, at least not while I was alive. Sometimes I think that’s why it’s so hard for me to have certain emotions with/for people, it’s a work in progress sometimes.
I can be all talk and say I hope my future sons and or daughters see me in a very happy relationship but who knows what time will bring. All I know is that I refuse to yell with whoever I’m with in front of them, no child should ever feel fear because “mom and dad are fighting”, that shouldn’t be a thing. I want to be an example for my future kids, for them to see what it’s like to love someone and for it to still feel new.
To be honest i have never been in love, i have felt love just not the romance type of way. Love to me is putting someone else in front of yourself. Whether if its that you give someone else food even though your hungry, buying them stuff, taking the fall for them, or even being able to give your life for someone. Even though i haven't loved someone i have attracted to someone. I want to say my behavior didn't change because in the end, if i acted differently they may not love me for who i am rather than what i just acted like. To be straight up i don't know why i';m attracted to the people i am i feel that i am just there for not how they look, their reputation, how much than have to offer me, but who they are. I feel like the people who i'm attracted to are also nothing like me. I like knowing different people because if they were the same as you your really not doing anything different than just hanging out with yourself, that's just how i feel. In a potential relationship i only look for is if we make each other happy, and you are loyal. I wouldn't need you to tell me where you are 24/7 but i love the feeling of someone who you care about and you know you can count on them for just about anything. I don't know if there is such a thing as a perfect relationship because even those i care about most can cause me the most pain. My first memory of romance i don't really remember. i dont really remember if i ever had one lol. My idea of love, most of the people that have said they loved turned out to be liars. You never really know if someone loves you until something happens that makes them prove it
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ReplyDeleteLove isn’t just a normal feeling and it’s not something you should just say to someone unless you truly mean it. Love either makes you feel alive or it can destroy you. It’s different for everyone and gives everyone a different feeling, but it’s something that should mean a lot.
ReplyDeleteHave I ever been in love? Currently I feel like I’m in love, but I don’t know what it truly means. All prior relationships I never felt the way I do now. This time it feels different. How I feel around my boyfriend gives me such a content feeling. One thing I do know is that I love my best friend Eric.
Behavior change? No. Why change your behavior for someone? To me if you change, they are liking you for someone you’re not. Just be true to yourself.
I typically think we’re attracted to someone who has fairly similar personalities as we do because we can relate to them better. Having different traits work out too because they can possibly help with something that we can’t help ourselves with.
I look for a guy who will show emotion anywhere we are, especially when we are in front of his friends. I look for honesty, respect, humor!!, and most important a guy who’s trusting and loyal.
First of all, there’s not one single relationship that is “perfect”. Every relationship goes through something at one point of time and I honestly think every relationship should. I think a good relationship definitely needs trust. Don’t be with them if you don’t trust them. A good relationship means you’re there for each other through thick and thin and you still love that person after seeing every single side of them.
I’m not going to lie, my parents didn’t teach me love. It was one of my friends parents. I once looked up to my parents love when the love was alive. Growing up with my best friend, their parents constantly showed me what love really was just by how they act towards each other, look at each other, and what they do for each other.
My earliest memory of “seeing” love was in Beauty and the Beast. I would always want my love and happiness to turn out like theirs. Just how the Beast and Belle portrayed their love for eachother inspired me in many different ways when I was younger.
I would say this has a little effect on my idea of love because things don’t turn out like movies. My memory has an affect on my expectations sometimes because from watching them I tend to sometimes expect more in relationships, but I know some things are just a fantasy.
I will teach my future children to never be afraid or feel “too cool” to show their true emotions towards someone. Don’t be afraid to get rejected because it only makes you stronger. I want my child/children to look up to me and my spouse’s relationship and to be inspired by our love. I never want them to think differently and I definitely don’t want them to grow up with parents who got separated because their love wasn’t the same as it was in the beginning.
It’s hard to define such a versatile words such as love. I guess i could best define it as a strong and undeniable feeling towards someone else. It’s a feeling you get when you would do anything and everything for someone. I’ve never been in a serious committed romantic relationship so i have no idea of what it’s like to be in love. Sometimes i feel like everyone around me is falling in love. I’ve had friendships end because of how much a person has changed in a relationship. I think we are attracted to people who are similar to us because as humans we crave comfortability and being with someone who is another version of yourself is comfortable. I honestly don’t know what my idea of a potential relationship would be. I have nothing to compare anything to so i have no expectations nor do i seek specific things. I guess my main thing would be for the other person to be nice? I don't know. I also have no idea what a perfect relationship would look like. Every relationship i’ve been surrounded by growing up always ended terribly. I thought love couldn’t be taught, i thought you had to go through being in love, that since everyone has a different perspective of love,there isn’t just one way to explain it. My earliest memory of experiencing love is with my grandma. When she lived closer, we were never apart. I was literally a mini her.We did everything together and she taught me how to be a strong black girl. That time in my life was the most important for me because with all the family drama, i needed a reminder of what love was. One thing i will do to push my kids to be respectful and loyal is i will raise them the same wy. There are so many double standards that go both ways and i think getting rid of them completely will help my kids understand love and how to treat others in any relationship they get in.
ReplyDeleteWhat is love? To me, love is a beautiful curse. It hurts so much, but it feels amazing- in more ways than one. Love gives people a reason to wake up in the morning. But it could also be the reason why you want to stay in bed. I’ve been in love. Every time I would see him, my stomach would do flips. I would experience sort of a falling feeling. It was almost like I was melting. He kept to himself, but he knew so many people that it didn’t matter. He didn’t need to try to be popular. Everyone already knew him. He didn’t change anything. Loving him is so difficult for me nowadays. Not only am I very quiet, but he’s extremely out of my league. By definition, a crush must hurt, and they do. For a good year or so, I didn’t let that stop me from experiencing love. The challenge of being in love with this guy almost made me want to work harder because of how much I felt inclined to. The entire world was against me, and I wasn’t going to let other people ruin it for me. It was so painful for me because I tried my hardest to get to know him, but he wouldn’t open up to me. I love to over-analyze everything, so I assume it’s because he never had to. Because he grew up with a lot of people around him, he never truly needed to make an effort. He’s the smartest guy I’ve ever known, yet he’s the worst at talking to people. I almost envy it. But of course, I don’t really know if that’s all true. Looking back on it, I don’t think it’s worth it to let this guy take control of my thoughts. I probably won’t ever get over him, and I know that. I still think he’s lovely. Maybe one day he will realize who the right person for him is.
ReplyDeleteWhy am I attracted to the people I am? When I think about it, everybody I’ve ever loved is someone who I wanted to be. I think popular people are attractive not just because of their confidence, but because I want that confidence. It makes me feel better about myself to know that someone who I admire so much wants to give me their time and patience. That brings us to what I look for in a relationship. I want someone who knows how to have a good laugh. Someone who is open-minded and knows how to keep his distance. Don’t get me wrong, I love being up close and personal. It takes a very long time to warm up to people. I also just like being alone sometimes. Even just sharing a nice silent moment is a dream for me. Just being there with each other, knowing that the other person is really there in that moment- with me. The perfect relationship to me is having the ability to communicate without words, but with feelings. Like, the capability of expressing emotions is so beautiful to me. It’s like flowers blooming in the spring. Nothing grows in just one way. Everything falls together in the perfect harmony of color. That’s what unites two people. Being able to go many different ways, cooperating to form one beautiful image.
ReplyDeleteWhen you are born, the first thing you learn is how to love. Your parents are supposed to teach you what love is. Ever since I was born, up until now, it’s only ever been my mom. She was there for me all the time. She was so protective of me. I was hers. She fed me, cleaned me, and gave me everything I ever needed. Giving someone the things they need when they are helpless is love. Everyone has love in them. I have a very early memory of when I was seven years old. My step-father had just moved in with my mom. I was under the assumption that they were supposed to be in love, I guess. At such a young age, I never really understood the true intentions behind their so-called “love”. I don’t really recall a time when they really showed what I believe real affection is supposed to look like. They never really hugged or kissed. I think they were only together because they were both lonely and broken. They had both grown up believing that if you didn’t have a significant other, you weren’t living up to society’s expectations; you were a social outcast. Does that affect how I perceive love? In a way, yes. Now I know that “falling in love” without truly feeling anything for the other person is not being true to yourself- and it’s draining. I won’t ever consider myself to be in love if I don’t wholeheartedly feel something intense. With that being said, I will teach my future children (if I ever do have any) that you shouldn’t go after someone who doesn’t make you feel like there’s a chance of redemption for all of the terrible things in the world.
Love is a strange word, in that each person has a different interpretation of it based solely off of how they have experienced it. Some people have a very strict "you can only TRULY love one person" ideology while others take a more "I can love anyone and everyone" approach. My interpretation of love isn't really that strict to be honest. I love and have loved many people and the one thing about love that separates it from "liking" someone is that once you really love someone, you never stop. Even if that love changes from a romantic love to a friendship love or vice versa, the love will remain in that relationship permanently. The only time I have ever truly stopped loving someone, is if they had betrayed me in some way. There are problems with both ideologies but overall, I'd say the less strict approach is better for one reason only. Because when you lower your standard of "love", you are bound to experience it so much more. As much as I wish it was like in the movies, it's not, and by looking for that you are only limiting yourself from learning and experiencing more.
ReplyDeleteRomantically? Yes I think I have. Am I now? I think so. I don't mean to sound like a hoe but I have had my fair share of relationships. I'm generally comfortable with people and I'm not really awkward too much. However, I don't know what changed but with my girlfriend now, it's a whole different story. I've never been anxious to hang out with a girl before ever in my whole life. But now? Yeah. Whenever I'm about to see her my heart starts pounding and I get really sweaty (ew). Not as much anymore but definitely in the beginning. I almost even threw up one time because the butterflies in my stomach decided to have a rave. Dumb butterflies. Not once before have I felt that. Is it love that I feel? Who's to say, but I definitely think it might be.
I'm not entirely sure why we are attracted to the people we are. Besides the biological factors like wide hips and large breasts that are attractive to men, I don't really understand why we like who we do. I think the one factor that really makes us like someone is how well they compliment your personality. I always thought it was so funny and unrealistic when in TV shows, an optimistic person is in cahoots with pessimist. Now I see why. People crave differences. We see it everywhere all the time, people love the differences in other people. When someone finds a person that contrasts them, but simultaneously brings out good in them, it's attractive. And why? I'll never know.
I like someone who can match my sarcasm. I like someone who won't get butthurt if I joke around with them. I like someone who will always laugh at my horrible jokes. I like someone who will unequivocally show me affection. I like someone who will bring out the best of me. I like someone who will always push me to be my best, even if I realllly don't want to.
A perfect relationship is one built on trust and mutual respect. Without those two things, you will have the most unhealthy relationship possible.
I have basically accumulated all the knowledge of love from pop-culture and personal experiences to teach my self about love. I know that sounds kinda dumb but it's the truth. I'm pretty much a walking Rom-Com. I might have learned a little about love from my parents because the way I act with romantic interests is very similar to the way my father acts towards my mother.
ReplyDeleteMy parents have always been very loving towards one another and that is most likely where I truly saw it for the first time. I think my idea of how a relationship should be is strongly based around my parents relationship. Even after disagreements and arguments, they always make sure to make up. That aspect probably affects how I view love the most which sometimes makes me pretty disappointed because not everyone is keen on making up after an argument. I expect it to happen because that's how I've viewed it my whole life, but more often then not, I'm let down.
If I were to teach my sons one thing, it would be love who you want, no matter what. Love is such a compulsive feeling. There is no build up or general reasoning behind it and the longer you put off this feeling, the more it'll hurt.
And to my daughters, be careful who you love. People are bound to play you. Be strong and be smart. Don't date someone you might regret because chances are, you will. I know too many girls who have made the wrong choice and have suffered way too much because of this.
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ReplyDeleteI forgot to add the last part on, so I’m going to do it here.
ReplyDeleteWhen I have children of my own, I’m going to teach them to never change who they are to be with someone. Way too many people change their ways or who they are just to be with someone, and I’ve experienced it. That’s something you never want to do. I will also teach them that it is okay to have some downs in a relationship. Everyday isn’t going to be perfect in a relationship, each one has something that will happen eventually. A relationship takes a lot of time and trust to be built into it, and you can’t just rush things. I will always tell thm to stick through the thick and thin with their partner. You can’t leave them hanging when they need you the most. Lastly, I will tell my future children never to rush into a relationship just because they want the feeling of love. Never rush into anything, get to know them, and most important, never be hurtful towards you significant other in any way.
I define love as strong feelings you have toward someone or something. What I mean by that is positive strong feelings like caring for them and wanting the best for them or never wanting to lose them from your life. Love doesn't have to be just for people, we all know that.
ReplyDeleteHave I ever been in love? Yes, I currently am. The him I knew before is different than the person he is now and I'm sure he can say the same about me as well. We both have grown in our relationship and I have helped teach him how to properly love someone.
I think we are attracted to those who we feel has something that we feel can fill something inside of us. Some people get into relationships for the wrong reasons but I can easily say I am attracted to the mind of a person, not their body.
I am in a relationship currently so I can't really say what I wish to have in a potential one I just wish to keep the one I have now. I hope that loyalty can be maintained and trust can continue to grow and we continue to grow together. Our relationship is nowhere near perfect and things happen but the bond I have with him will forever be hard to replace. All I can ask for is loyalty, trust, and unconditional love.
My idea of a perfect relationship is one where there is loyalty, compassion, no grudges, and endless love. A relationship where they don't desire anybody else but you. A relationship where they understand you and can hold you and comfort you when things aren't okay. A relationship where you guys wake up the next morning from a fight the night before and say "Let's move forward". Lastly, a relationship where the love is always there and you don't have to go to sleep at night wondering if they dont love you enough and ask yourself if they even truly love you like they say they do.
Who taught me about love? My boyfriend (Cheesy I know). I always knew how to love but I never knew what love itself was until I met him. He showed me that love is so many things. Its not leaving your person awake at night upset while you go soundly asleep, it's giving them your last bite of food, it's never walking away when things get hard (unless there is a logical reason of course), or simply being there when they need you the most.
My earliest memory of seeing love? Oof, this is a hard one. I believe it was my parents. It's hard to say that because they didn't make it like I could've wished but I realized that love just doesn't last sometimes. I was lucky to see them together while I could even if it was a short time and although they argued like they hated each other, you could feel the passion.Seeing my mom and dad though showed me a lot. The way they held each other, the way she always made sure there was dinner for him when he got back from work late, the way they held hands on car rides, the way they talked about each other, the way they laughed with each other, the way they would watch movie together, the way they drank coffee in the morning together and so much more. I think the biggest thing was how they cared for each other. There love was nowhere near perfect, it was kind of an up and down roller coaster to watch but when they argued or broke up they always cared for each other.
ReplyDeleteThis memory and memories did affect the way I viewed love. I realized love isn't perfect. It took me awhile to realize that. When my parents didn't make it I gave up on it because I always believed love will always last but I learned that you can love someone but you can no longer be with them. These memories though taught me that love is so much more than the word itself.
I want my kids to understand that love is not like the movies. Its not going to be love letters everyday and flowers constantly. Its about arguments and tears and trust. I want my kids to know not to settle for anything less than what they deserve and I want them to know that they deserve everything because I know they will have my good heart. I want them to know that love is about you too. YOU need to love YOURSELF before getting into a relationship. I had to learn this the hard way and it's still something I am struggling with. Not loving yourself will ruin something good because you will never believe it when someone tells you they love you and you will think your relationship is all a lie sometimes. Lastly, I want them to know when to walk away. I don't want them fighting for someone who would never even lift a finger for them.I don't want them trying to put the pieces back together of a relationship for someone who hurt them in a way that nobody should ever be hurt. I want them to notice that you CAN give up and walk away and it's completely okay to put yourself first sometimes. I want them to realize that they deserve far more than a painful love and deserve better than somebody who "half" loves them. These are things I wish I would've known myself.
My definition of love is when THEIR happiness is YOUR happiness. This goes for relationship-wise and friend-wise, in my opinion. A couple of my friends say they are in love, and I honestly see it. I would say their behavior changed, too. I noticed they are generally more happy, and I was happy for them too. I think we are attracted to people who are like ourselves, whoever we feel most comfortable around. At least I know I am. In potential relationships I look for honesty, affection, and maturity. If we can't talk about a problem and fix it, I don't want to be with you, simple as that. My idea of a "perfect" relationship is one where we thrive TOGETHER and support one another in everything we do, no matter what. This connects with who taught me about love and my earliest memory of "seeing" love. My great-grandparents were married for over 60 years, and eventually my great-grandpa was diagnosed with Alzheimer's. He barely knew who anyone was, but my grandma stuck by his side, and loved him every day. He died a few years ago, but my grandma remembers him every day, and still loves him unconditionally, and relates everything to him. I think these memories affect how I view the idea of "love", because it shows that true love will always be there, even if the person isn't.
ReplyDeleteFor me, love is when you wake up every morning and your first reaction is to text your significant other just to tell them what you dreamt about and how you slept. Love is when you can't go longer than a day not talking to your significant other without your stomach feeling weird like the world is out of balance. This is how I know that I'm currently in love with Lyanni Marie Rodriguez. For me, it wasn't love at first sight we started off as friends and over time I started to fall in love with her. I knew I really loved her when one night we were on facetime just laughing and in the mix of the laughing I said "I love you" and I didn't say it as a friendly love, I meant it, but the crazy part about it was that I didn't mean to it kinda just slipped. There are plenty of reasons I'm in love with Lyanni one, the girl puts up with my bs because I know that sometimes I can be a dick, two, she's independent she doesn't need me by her hip 24/7, three, she is the prettiest girl I have ever seen every time I look at her I just smile and want to hug her. I don't think there is such a thing as a perfect relationship, but my idea of a perfect relationship is no petty fights and both people involved are always happy. I didn't grow up in a two-parent household so I never really experienced love first hand. Even though I didn't experience it, my mom, still taught me how to treat women and how to love things like sports. The first time I saw love was my sister with field hockey. She would do anything to play that game and she brought her stick everywhere. This memory has taught me that If you love something then that means you are willing to do anything for that person. I can honestly say that I would do anything for Lyanni and that if Lyanni and I aren't in love then I have no idea what love really is. My hope is that my future kids are with Lyanni and I want to be able to tell them the story of me and her. The one thing I want my kids to know about love is that love isn't always happy every relationship goes through tuff times but true love will be able to get through it.
ReplyDeleteMy definition of love would be when someone feels a certain way to another in a really happy way. Love is a weird word because no one can be right when it comes to "love" and there's so many opinions towards the word "love". I have felt a bit of love towards someone when I was in a relationship but things ended and we're not together anymore. So I couldn't call it "in love" but I was at that stage. My behavior sometimes changed, we would want to compromise so we thought we might as well change to make each other happy. I feel that we are attracted to we are due to personal preference at the end of the day it's what you like and you want to be happy. What I look for in a relationship is the girl is never boring. I know i am boring but if she keeps talking I'm going to keep talking with her and it's going to keep going, constant talking because the second I get bored it's GG. I also have to have a interest in that person I'm not going to waste my time and certainly not yours, it pointless. To me their is no such thing as a "perfect" relationship. Every relationship is going to have problems every single one. In my latest relationship she never wanted to fight like she thought it was wrong it makes the relationship break a little bit. When she told me this i was like yeah you're right. Deep down I knew we were going to get into an argument at some point. I taught myself about love, my parents have never been the best at it so I had to find out what it was myself. My earliest memory or "seeing" love was when I was like 5, i liked this girl and we "dated" and all that and we would always be on the playground together and I sometimes would leave my class and go be with her. That's true love. I would also see love from tv shows for example I know this isn't early but I was like 10 or 11 and I watched "Saved by the bell" and it was summer time and they would show 10 episodes once I came home from school but the love between all the friends and towards one another like Zack and like the ten different girls he had. And also just recently "The office" Jim and Pam their love was crazy and up marrying each other and who would've thought it. But those memories don't affect my idea of love because everyone has their own way of loving a certain other. But I what I would want to teach my kids about love is u can't find it it'll come and you'll feel it. I will also show them love by my future wife and I setting an example not like my parents did to me.
ReplyDeleteRick and Morty is a great show. Like a really good show. If you haven't watched Rick and Morty, I would advise you to binge watch all three season before reading my post.
ReplyDeleteHumans are science. Emotions make us human. Emotions are science. Love is science. Many of you are probably thinking to yourself, "Of course the kid who's never had a girlfriend thinks like this...", but it's not that. Looking at emotions from an objective view, specifically love, I have come to the conclusion that love is simply science. Hormones and electrical messages through neurons tell us what we like and don't like. I admire Rick from "Rick and Morty". For those of you that have watched the show, you know Rick is emotionless. He preaches that humans are weak for their emotions, which is why they can never achieve their full potential. He always tells his grandson Morty that emotions hold people back. I admire Rick for being emotionless...because I could never do it. Mainly because I'm not a genius scientist that invented a portal gun and I cannot just let go of things that I feel for.
I don't believe I have ever been in love as I believe I can only be in love once--and that is with the person I marry. Obviously, I love my parents, but I believe that's a different kind of love. Based on my ideals and beliefs about love, I have seen only a few people in love. I have seen people dating, marrying, and divorcing--all having to do with love. I have devised these beliefs about love through pure self-reflection and thought mixed in with different experiences. No one told me what love was, and I don't think anyone should, because love is different for everyone. I'd say my earliest memory of love is in Shrek, where Fiona is drugged with a potion that makes her love the prince. That memory doesn't really affect my view on love even though all the Shreks were some of the best movies I've ever watched. When people are in love, I do see that their behaviors change. They get nervous around each other, talk differently, and act differently. These are just different reactions in your brain and body caused by being around someone you love. Again, science can explain the reasoning behind our attractions. It is human nature to associate yourself with things you like, whether it be food, people, or activities. These things make us human, and without them, we would all be robots who like the same things, which isn't interesting at all. In a potential relationship, there is only one thing I look for. Newton's 3rd Law states every action has an equal and opposite reaction. However much effort I put in, is the same amount I want back from my counter-part. Relationships never work if they are unbalanced, so I would want balance in a potential relationship.
All in all, love is a subjective topic. I hope this response doesn't make you think I'm a soul-less freak. I don't believe science explains everything, but I believe it plays a major part in our daily lives. Lastly, I hope you guys watch Rick and Morty to fully understand my stance on love.
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ReplyDeleteLove is putting someone else's life before yours. When you love someone, it doesn't just go away because you argue or stop talking to each other. Love is forever even if you don't want to admit it. Nothing matches the love most parent's have for their kids. They would do anything to make you happy and would sacrifice everything for you, that is an example of true love. The only people I have loved in my life are my parents. From the day I was born I was surrounded with love and affection my whole entire life. A love that I am so fortunate to have and I will never take advantage of. I love my parents for the unconditional love they have given me up to this day. I know many people that have been in love, and I know people that think they are in love and it is very easy to tell the difference. When I saw people who were actually in love they just couldn't get enough of each other and couldn't see each other's lives without their relationship. Everyday I see them they are always making sure the other is ok and happy even if they weren't happy. I think the reason we are attracted to the ones we are is because we see a future with them and we want to experience it together. We usually find their personality to be attractive and that makes us want to be around them even more.
ReplyDeleteWhat I look for in potential relationship is someone who will always be there for me in my best and worst times. Someone who sees a future in me. I want someone who will be loyal and honest with me even if they feel like they should keep it quiet. As long as they try their best to keep me happy I would do the same and it would all work out. A perfect relationship in my opinion is a relationship where nothing is toxic and there are no arguments whatsoever. No one lies to each other and they always tell the truth. Loyalty and Trust are the most important factors in a perfect relationship. No one ever taught me about love really. The closest time someone really taught me about love is when my mom told me about it and she told me that love is putting someone else's life before yours. It makes sense to me since everyone always says how strong of a word love is. My earliest memory of seeing love is seeing my parents kiss and hug each other every day. I didn't understand it fully at first but they always smiled at each other so that obviously had to mean something. It changed my idea of love because it showed me that when they showed love to each other they were happy. I will tell my future sons/daughters that do not think you love the first person you have feelings for. You will have so much more to learn about them to see if you actually love them. But if they do think they are in love, they should talk to me first.
To me, love is that one person who can just smile at you and literally everything is okay. That one smile can make everything go away and you feel like everything will be okay. Love is just being in their presence and feeling relieved and calm. This is everything I feel with Mason. We could be anywhere and as long as I’m standing near him I just feel at peace, like everything’s better. I literally just look at him amazed all the time because I can’t believe how much love I have for him and he catches me doing it all the time. I feel such a strong pull towards him it’s crazy. I never really looked for anything in a potential relationship, I never even looked for one. Mason happened by accident and I’m forever grateful. It amazes me that we were friends for so long and the fact that I always low key felt something but he never believes me when I say that (even if it’s true). I don’t believe in “perfect relationships”. My idea of a “perfect” relationship is having communication and just having fun, being able to laugh about everything. To me, communication is one of the most important things in a relationship, along with patience and trust. I guess my earliest memory of love was with my parents and their love for me. My parents stopped being together when I was very young so that’s how I grew up and I never was upset by it or wished for them to be together, I’m fine with how things are. When my mom and dad split up they stayed friends, along with both sides of my family. Everyone is still friendly with each other and there’s no hate. Even though my parents annoy each other like crazy they stay friends for my sake. My mom didn’t have that luxury growing up which is the reason she wanted it for me. To me, that’s love because my mom had a lot of anger towards my dad when I was younger, with good reason, but she put that aside for my sake and they’re both wonderful people, I love them both and I’m thankful they get along, and the way they love me. I would literally do anything for them, and they would do the same for me. I have such special memories with them and as much as they annoy me I love them like crazy. Growing up there was a lot of love towards me from family and just in my family in general everyone’s very close and it’s a great feeling. I feel like this shaped my idea of love because I have a whole lot if it. Especially for Mason, he definitely will forever have a special place in my heart. Like getting to know him and being with him is one of the best things to happen. He’s such an amazing person with such a sweet heart. He has such a strong personality but at the same time he’s a little sweetheart and sometimes I just laugh because it’s the funniest combination ever. He puts up with all of my crazy mood swings and that truly a blessing because I know it probably drives him crazy. What I hope to teach my future children about love is it isn’t like the movies and it doesn’t happen right away and it’s not rainbows and sunshine all the time. There’s gonna be rough moments but that doesn’t mean anything when you truly love someone because you know both of you will get through it, together. I want to teach them that love is so much more than crushing on someone and saying “I love you”. I’m going to tell them the story of me and Mason and how crazy in love I am with him and hopefully he’ll be sitting there next to me telling the story too :)
ReplyDeleteLove is what keeps humanity going. I am not trying to sound metaphorical here. Quite literally, humanity as a whole needs connections, love being one of them. When someone is lacking in an area such as love, it shows. That is because every person needs to feel loved. As far as definitions go, Love is what you make it. It is a very broad and undefined word. To one person “I love you” could mean, I want to take you out once. To another it could mean the world. I love you is something you most likely hear from your friends. How you say it and the situation is what truly shapes it’s meaning. Someone who cares isn’t going to shoot you a text “I love you” so nonchalantly. This is because a person that is taking you seriously would take the time to meet with you in order to make it special. So, as I previously stated love is simply what you make of it.
ReplyDeleteI have surely thought that I “loved” a lot of people, later to find I prove myself wrong after getting to know the person. Perhaps that was simply me being innocent and dumb, or just blind. Either way, I understand that love has a tendency to do that to you. Make you walk head on blindfolded, unconcerned of the risks around you. I have never thrown myself out there for this reason, I’m not sure if I know what I’m getting myself into, or if I truly want to for that matter. So as far as behavior, you become completely dumbfounded, as an addition to your teenage stupidity.
I’m not sure if this is just a made up story I heard, but I recall reading about how kids have a tendency to look for a match based on their parents. What I’m meaning is, what your father of mother looks like, that sort of thing. Realistically speaking, this is believable to me because what else do you have to base your knowledge off of other than your parents, parents are there to be an example to you. So, whether it makes sense or not, this appears relatively true to me. As far as myself, this hasn’t been true for myself, but I’m sure in most cases that might be a deciding factor.
ReplyDeleteWhat I generally look for is passion. Someone told me once-well, let’s just go through the whole story. Someone asked me out and my initial reaction was “why?” This was coming from someone I barely talked to, maybe we would say hi every once in a while, and that was all. Some reason out of the blue he says he has feelings for me. The reason this was so unbelievable to me was because I couldn’t comprehend how he could possibly have feelings for me, when he barely has a clue about me. I think most people don’t consider this when they’re hopping into a relationship. His first response was “I don’t know, I find you attractive.” I’m not sure about others... but that is personally not enough for me. This story does end on a good note in the way that later he tried to redeem himself and after thinking it over he said, “I thought about what you said and you’re really passionate about a lot of the things you do, and it makes others want to love what you’re doing too.” Now, although I still wasn’t interested I thought that was a very sweet thing to say, and I felt very complimented. When I think of love I imagine someone being as passionate as I am about flute, or band, or choir, and being that way toward the person they love. Truly dedicating their time and everyone can see the love between the two people and they can’t deny it, and it even makes them wish they had that too. There’s no such thing as perfect to me, I just want to find someone that undeniably makes me happy, and I have. What I have learned about love is something I consider everyday. I consider what ways I want to be like my parents, and what ways I hope to avoid. While no one opened a text book and spelled it out for me, Love was all around me to experience. The first memory I have of love would be my parents, and it will always affect how I go on as a person because in so many ways I wish to differ from them. I hope to mature as a person and define love between my significant other slightly different. Call me unrealistic but, I want my kids to experience nothing but love. So long as I’m alive with my children when I am, I will stop at nothing to give that to them because they deserve that. While I acknowledge there are things in the world you can’t shield your children from, the world has not met me. In all seriousness, all I want is love and happiness for my kid, I will stop at nothing to do that, we all parents should.