The 7-point Creed
I keep meaning to explain this to you in a very conversational way, but somehow there never seems to be enough time to be able to really just "talk" to you. This schedule really--what do you guys say? BMS? Is that right? Well, if that's right then that is what this schedule does.
Anyway, my dude John Wooden used to tell his UCLA players that being successful on the court meant nothing without being successful as a human. No surprise there, and certainly not an original idea but Wooden didn't just preach it--he made his players LIVE it. They all had to come up with their own blueprint of success that was modeled around a few tenets which they could apply to all aspect of their lives. (a tenet is a principle or a belief) He called this list of tenets a 7-point Creed. This was the name of a list his own father, Joshua, had given to him when he was about to go into middle school. It read as follows:
Anyway, my dude John Wooden used to tell his UCLA players that being successful on the court meant nothing without being successful as a human. No surprise there, and certainly not an original idea but Wooden didn't just preach it--he made his players LIVE it. They all had to come up with their own blueprint of success that was modeled around a few tenets which they could apply to all aspect of their lives. (a tenet is a principle or a belief) He called this list of tenets a 7-point Creed. This was the name of a list his own father, Joshua, had given to him when he was about to go into middle school. It read as follows:
* Be true to yourself.
* Make each day your masterpiece.
* Help others.
* Drink deeply from good books, especially the Bible.
* Make friendship a fine art.
* Build a shelter against a rainy day.
* Pray for guidance and give thanks for your blessings every day.
If you don't know who John Wooden is, look him up--his story is quite remarkable. As a coach, I deeply admire him and the things he has accomplished. As a human being, he is amazing in every sense of the word and one of the few people I can honestly say I aspire to emulate. As you know, I don't say that about very many people. He is also the renowned author of last's week's blog title--I reallllly like the guy.
In any case, your task for this week is to come up with your own 7-Point Creed and share it here.
Along with the list of statements that encapsulate your belief, you should also provide some sort of description or explanation about how this belief inspires you, keeps you grounded, motivates you, etc.
I know that this is not something you can do in two days. And this is why I am extending the deadline until Friday (Oct.26) night. You will really need to put a lot of thought into this.
Ask yourself these questions to help you along:
Along with the list of statements that encapsulate your belief, you should also provide some sort of description or explanation about how this belief inspires you, keeps you grounded, motivates you, etc.
I know that this is not something you can do in two days. And this is why I am extending the deadline until Friday (Oct.26) night. You will really need to put a lot of thought into this.
Ask yourself these questions to help you along:
What do I value?
What are my morals?
How do I want to be perceived by others?
What do I want my legacy to be?
What have I learned in my life?
What else do I want to learn?
Now, I certainly don't want you to answer those questions and consider that to be your creed. Remember, a creed is a sort of guideline for living, but it is also completely subjective. Look at Wooden's creed again. The statements there are kind of ambiguous and can be open to interpretation, don't you think? So, when you are doing this, try to keep that in mind. However, it is precisely BECAUSE the statements are ambiguous that you will have to explain what you mean by them, what they mean to you and why you chose them. Always the why.
What you are basically doing is creating a blueprint all your own, by which you can live your life. YOUR life. Nobody else's.
After all, who is more important than you?
My 7-point creed would be:
ReplyDelete1) Treat everyone equally- treating everyone fair and equal is the right thing to do, no one wants to be treated different than the rest.
2)Be there for anyone who needs it- you don't know what others are going through, some people may want someone to talk to or a shoulder to cry on.
3) Live life with no regrets- if you start regretting and feeling bad about something, you will never be happy.
4)Don't give a sh*t about what people think of you- this one was hard for me to do for a while because i always just want to please others, but once you stop caring about what others think you will have a much happier life and will end up being true to yourself.
5) Learn to love yourself- one of the toughest things to do is loving yourself, every flaw and imperfection. If you love yourself you will become confident and happy.
6) Don't bottle your emotions up- this one is an extremely hard thing for me. I always try and act like I'm fine even if I'm not. When I bottle everything up, later down the road I just explode and it gets real bad but later feels better to express how I have been feeling.
7) It is okay to let your guard down- I also have a hard time with this because I never let anyone "in" which is why I never have real close friends.
1)Being humble and learn to forgive- think of yourself less. It’s really hard especially right now since were in high school. However I do try to think of other people and pray to the Lord that they are well. Even those who have done wrong in this earth, they are the ones who need it the most.
ReplyDelete2)To smile everyday- I know it sounds stupid, but to me this translates to find some good throughout the day. Even if it’s the smallest thing.
3)To read my surroundings- Everyday when I go somewhere I make sure I look around and see how others are feeling. I try to cheer other people up if I can. Not even just that but if I’m hiking or just at the mall, I make sure my guard is always up.
4)Do instead of wish- I chose this because sometimes I’m really lazy but I’ll be complaining about something that I can fix. So last year I started to tell myself this to remind me of my goals.
5)Talk to your Father- by father I mean God. When I can even if it’s a small prayer I make sure I do it.
6)If you’re going to do something, do it right- My parents tell me this a lot. If I’m being lazy I”ll think of it. It reminds me of how hardworking they are.
7) “Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself’ - Matthew 22:39-40 King James Version (KJV)
39 And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.40 On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets. This is basically telling you about the golden rule, treat others how you want to be treated, so respect. Be civil with people, even those who have sinned.
1) Don’t ever doubt yourself. If you want to do something, do it. Don’t be afraid to do something just because you’re afraid of what someone may think of you.
ReplyDelete2) You only have one life, so make the best of it. (Yolo). You can’t waste your life worrying about things like an A on a report card or being number one in your class. Go to that party. Buy the shirt. Go have fun. One day, you won’t be able to do those things.
3) Treat everyone how you would like to be treated. Yes, I know, the saying that you’ve heard every year since you were in kindergarten. If you wouldn’t like to be treated badly, then don’t treat someone else like that.
4)Don’t let anyone treat you badly. Whether it’s relationship something or friendships, don’t let someone hurt you or bring you down.
5)Don’t care about what other people think. If you spend your life worrying and caring about what others think, you will never be happy. I’ve learned to let things people say about me go in one year and out the other and it’s made me so much happier.
6) Always talk about what’s bothering you. If you let everything build up inside of you and don’t talk about it, the only person you’re hurting is yourself.
7) Value and appreciate the people around you. Boyfriend, girlfriend, friends or family, always take the time to thank them once in a while and spend time with them. One day, they won’t be there for you to do that.
1. Give love- The feeling of giving and receiving love is such a special feeling. It makes my day even when I just tell a friend that I love them just because. If everybody gave a little love out each day, the world would just be a happier place.
ReplyDelete2. YOLO!!!!- This is probably one of the major things that I live by. Everyday I’m constantly willing to do something new because of the thought that I only have one life. Deep down inside I’m super crazy and wild and I’m just willing to do new stuff.
3. Don’t care about what others think- Ever since I started not to care about what others thought of me, a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders. I don’t have to adjust myself to others just to be accepted by them. If they are not willing to accept me for who I am, then they’re not worth my time.
4. BE HAPPY!- Live your life with no regrets. I know sometimes we have bad days and we’re upset, but just be happy! It gives out such a positive vibe and it makes the people around you smile along with you.
5. Speak your mind- Keeping words bottled inside of you can be physically and mentally draining, so just speak about whatever is bothering you. Even if it is silly or dumb things, speak it!
6. Always be thankful- Some people take things for granted and it really makes me upset because you never know what could happen and how in an instant, that “thing” can be gone. Just be thankful.
7. Value those around you- Just telling somebody how important they are to you or how much you appreciate them is something that will make their day. Just showing that you truly care about them is something that everybody should do.
7 point creed
ReplyDeleteWork for others as if working for the Lord.
Eve was made from Adam’s rib to be kept close to the heart.
Be humble, but never humiliated
There is no race except the human one.
Earn everything.
Blood means nothing. Actions mean all.
Protect your family at all costs
1 Explained)
My work ethic usually sets me apart from my peers in any environment. I’m never comfortable knowing how to do just one job. I love learning and being versatile in any situation. A work environment, volunteer environment, or in Rotc. I work as if the lord asked me to do it himself, because in a way, He did. He placed my superiors above me. Working diligently, effectively and smart is what sets me apart because i always give 100% effort whenever i do anything.
2 Explained)
One of the most important lessons i learned growing up is to respect women. I learned that from my father’s failure. All women should be respected. Sisters, mothers, random girls,ladys, and women in general should be respected. Walk on the side that’s closer to the street when walking alongside a lady. Offer your seat for a lady, hold the door. It’s just embedded in me.
3 Explained)
I’ve sunk into depression before due to low self esteem, and i’ve been an asshole because i was over confident or cocky. Theres somewhere in between cocky and worthlessness that makes a decent human being.
4 Explained)
All labels do is separate and cause conflict, sometimes wars. There is no black race, oriental race, or caucasian race. Just the human race and i feel that we as a people need to embrace that and stop hating color, or lackthereof.
5 Explained)
I hate being handed stuff. Yeah its cool on my birthday or christmas or whatever, but its not realistic for someone to just hand you stuff, unkless you're homeless, and thats usually pity, and others call it sympathy, but thats another arguement. In life, You earn your paycheck, and if you dont, you get fired. You earn your muscles, and physique through work. If you dont work for it you dont get it. In society, you earn peoples respect when your action show that you respect them. It’s the same with trust. You have to earn it.
6 Explained)
Ive heard the saying “Blood is thicker than water.” way too many times. Personally, blood doesn't mean family. Blood onky means you’re related. The thing that gives the word family so much weight, is the things family does for eachother. How they all congregate in a time of grief, never hesitate to help out or offer support, never turn their back or abandon you. I’ve had family that’s borrowed money from me and skipped town, never to be heard of again, and i’ve had friends that borrow money from me, pay it back, and allow me to do the same, we hang out, fight, resolve, bond, and create a relationship. In an altimatum, am i supposed to chose the blood that borrowed and beat it, or the water whos actions showed they care about me and have earned the right to be treated as blood?
7 Explained)
Family is important to me as it is for a lot of people. That's all there really is behind number 7
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ReplyDeleteTreat everyone with sympathy, you don't know what they have been through, don't judge someone unless you know who they are like on the inside
ReplyDeleteLoyalty, one of the best feelings in the world is that someone will put everything aside for you.
Be thankful for what you have because there is always someone who is more unfortunate than you
never look back on the past it just distracts you on what your doing right now
keep your circle small, love isn't based on how many people like you, it's how much someone likes you
live your life like your gonna die tomorrow
1. Live each day with gratitude: If you don’t live each and everyday with any sort of thankfulness, kindness, and gratefulness than you’re not seeing the whole picture of life and one day you’ll regret not appreciating what you have until it’s not there.
ReplyDelete2. Don’t care about how people see you: If you’re constantly worrying about how others see you, you eventually will lose yourself while trying to impress their views. You should only care about how you view yourself and love who you are because then you’ll be happy.
3. Life your life to the fullest: You only have one life to live; make it worth it and do what you want to do. Don’t always think about the grades you get on tests because like Prince EA said, the grades you get don’t define you as a person and they shouldn’t determine the life you live. Always smile and enjoy doing the things you do before the time comes to an end.
4. Always say what’s on your mind: You’ll only hurt yourself just by piling everything inside of you. Always speak up and never be afraid to say anything. Everything you think and say have a purpose to you and it matters.
5. Value that I have the support of both my parents: Even though their divorced, just know they both want what’s best for you and will be with you every step you take. They both love you a lot.
6. Always be kind and considerate even in the smallest ways: Saying please and thank you, holding the door, asking someone how their day is going; all of these things can brighten up someone’s day instantly. Be the person that always makes people feel wanted.
7. Have confidence: Do whatever makes you happy and feel confident when you do it. Love yourself for you and never let anyone drag you down. Find the trust within yourself.
1.When others bring you down get back up: i mean this speaks for itself but this happens frequently to me. Not a lot of people believe in me but I know that I'm going to get back up and prove them wrong.
ReplyDelete2.Always smile: i once read that a smile can change someones day. And i life that i always want someone to smile because when you smile everything bad goes away you just think of that moment.
3.Know who you are: Don’t let anybody change you just let them hate because they are not you. Because at the end of the day they cant do anything to change you.
4.You can do it: bible says “I can do anything all things through Christ who strengthens me”- Philippians 4:13, so like who is going to stop me then their is no point in giving up.
5.Live life like its your last: I feel like this should be everyones mentality what if we die right now. Would you be happy with your life? Don't die with that idea that what if i did this? If it happened it happened for a reason.
6.Remember where you came from: There is nothing more I hate when people don’t remember where they came from. Why wouldn’t you like from where you came from. I love being called Mexican because i am not a shamed of it.
7.Find a way: THERE IS ALWAYS ANOTHER WAY ALWAYS. Even if you have to importune there is always another way to do something, and you have to believe that there is another way.
This blog post was a tough one for me to think about, and I wrote it early because I knew I would not give a well-thought answer if I procrastinated. I've never really thought about how I want to live my life, I've only thought about goals and aspirations. The following tenets I present are ones that I learned from mistakes in the past or am still trying to achieve.
ReplyDelete1. Do not wish harm or ill upon anyone.
When I was studying for the National Spelling Bee in 8th grade, I encountered the word "schadenfreude". The word comes directly from two German words: Schaden means harm, and Freude means joy. The definition of this word means to take pleasure in others pain or misfortune, which is quite the twisted mindset in my opinion. I've been through pain, just like any other human, and I wouldn't want people to suffer. The idea of revenge turns the heart black, as proven in the story of the Scarlet Letter. As Gandhi famously said, "An eye for an eye leaves the whole world blind."
2. Actions speak louder than words.
I'm a huge trash talker. Absolutely love it. But I only talk trash as an element of fun, not to boast. Thinking back, when I first started playing chess, I realized I couldn't talk trash to opponents, so the only alternative was to mentally destroy them on the board. Oakcrest is looked down upon in our league because we're from South Jersey, and tournaments are the perfect way to prove the haters wrong. I sit quietly and play the game, no matter how condescending my opponent is. The proof is in the pudding.
3. Always be willing to help.
I'm not the most patient person, and I actually recall in elementary school, that I said I would never be a teacher because I wasn't patient enough. Now, I think it's pretty cool that me saying something to a person can help them understand a concept that a teacher couldn't explain to them. But this tenet relates more to life than education. All through my life, I can't remember a time where my parents refused to help someone unless it was for criminal activities or something that was morally wrong (which I don't think has ever happened). One of the main pillars in Indian culture is hospitality, and I guarantee there is no such thing as an inhospitable Indian household. I remember my parents inviting random people from India into our house for food and a bed, so those people could focus on building a life for themselves in a completely new country. I truly admire my parents for this, and anyone who goes above and beyond to help another person because that is the first step in the betterment of our society and world.
4. Think before you speak.
I've spoken plenty of words that I wish I could take back, just like every other human on this planet. Some of the stuff I wish I could take back is stuff that no one's ever heard. On the first day of school, you, Ms. Bunje, told us words could affect humans in unimaginable ways, and you were right. Humans have the greatest effect on each other, we're like Dragon type Pokemon. Yeah, I know I'm a nerd, but if you get that reference you a real one.
5. Respect your elders.
Respecting one's elders is an embedded tradition in Indian culture. Every "old person" has a story to tell, and you will always learn from that story. Our elders teach us everything we know, as information is passed down from generation to generation. A little respect to the people that give us the greatest wisdom and advice will go a long way.
6. It takes courage to learn.
When I first heard this from my uncle, I never knew what it meant. My uncle tutored me throughout elementary and middle school, and he would tell me this every time he saw I wasn't paying attention or I wasn't interested in the topic at hand. Now that I've had time to think about it, I've realized not only does it take courage to learn, it also takes courage to be wrong, which is learning. So...be brave and learn, because mistakes teach the best lessons.
7. Don't waste people's time.
ReplyDeleteA person's greatest possession is their time. We only have so much on this planet, and it's up to us on how we use it. I don't know if I do this, but I know I hate when people waste my time by not trying or putting their full effort. I am always willing to help, but it's completely useless when people don't try. You can only lead a horse to water.
1. Never ever let anyone tell you that you can't do something. You be who you want to be, do what you want to do, and just live your life because god gave it to you for a reason.
ReplyDelete2. Always respect others because you never know what they have been through in life and how much they have struggled.
3. Always be grateful for what you get rather then what you don't get. I have so many blessings in my life and have been given a lot of things that many kids are not fortunate enough to have so I like to stay humble.
4. Always be there for the people who were there for you when you were at your lowest. Don't ever forget where you came from.
5. Always try to be positive. Even when you are not in the best mood, try to still spread positivity and be the happiest person you can be. Happiness is key.
6. Finish what you started. If you are gonna start doing something and become committed to it, try your very best to finish it even if you think you can't.
7. The most important one of all to me is to be yourself. You are unique in your own way and should be proud of it
1. When there’s a will there’s a way: never stop believing in a better life. There are always different paths you can take.
ReplyDelete2. Never hold a grudge: holding a grudge will not benefit anyone in any situation. In most cases, you’re mad and they don’t care
3. Be patient: your time for happiness will come.Continue to grow and love and have hope.
4. Do not judge someone's story based on the chapter you walked in on:
5. Don't give up when you still have something to give: this is a complicated way of saying never give up. I’ve been through a lot and the one thing i have to live by is to never give up, there is always another way.
6. Don’t dismiss your dreams: There is always someone in my life saying i will never become a surgeon. But if i keep my dream alive no one can tell me otherwise.
7. Be Grateful: i can’t stress this enough. Appreciate everything while you have it. Even the things you don’t think about. Your house, your family, friends, teachers, water, food, love. Always appreciate things like you might lose it tomorrow.
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ReplyDelete1. Forgiveness; when you’re able to forgive there is no regret, no sadness nor hatred to spread. Learning and gaining the ability to forgive someone for their wrong doings is a blessing, it means you have overcome an obstacle that caused you great pain and you’re able to move on. Forgiving is the way to live a happy life.
ReplyDelete2. To have an open mind; listening to people’s opinions before judgement, just giving someone a chance.
3. Being humble; not having to flaunt new purchases or take a million selfies to be gassed (i don't do this lol but for people in general). Humble is such a satisfied trait that I strongly want to maintain throughout my life
4. Coming at arguments and hostile situations with a calm tone; I hope to never have to raise my voice and to always talk in a normal tone for my point to get across, I don’t like to yell at people in arguments, it makes the person who's doing it look ridiculous tbh ..
5. Don’t be afraid to get embarrassed; idky but im always so afraid to be embarrassed, I act like it’s the end of the world, it’s really not and I need to work on it ..
6. No Doubt; how I feel is how I feel and I shouldn’t second guess my natural feelings for someone else, I think that’s where I go wrong a lot
7. Live creatively; I constantly have to remind myself to open my eyes and realize im healthy and not perfect but I’m still living, I should value my life more and take control of it, live my passions and don’t sweat the small things… that’s a lot at once but I’m basically saying I shouldn’t live like a robot and take steps to make life fun
1. Be kind and respectful to those who deserve it. Let's be honest, not everyone deserves respect and not everyone deserves kindness. However, those who do need to treated with the utmost kindness and respect because if that is severely lacking in a relationship, it can become toxic very quickly.
ReplyDelete2. Be truthful. The truth is rare, cherish it and express it as often as possible. The people who tell the truth the most are the people you will want to keep in your life because they are genuine. Be that person.
3.Be confident. Confidence is important for a plethora of things but most importantly, mental health. A lack of confidence can affect you in every aspect of your life.
4. Be passionate. Without passion you will lack drive and you will lack the emotions that make people human. Everyone is passionate about something, so pursue that passion.
5. Be strong. Stand up for what you believe in and don't let negative energy affect your mental state. Life is competitive and people will try to bring you down. Support yourself and push through all obstacles
6. Be curious. Curiosity is what will drive you to accomplish greatness. Complacency is the bane of human existence. All strive to be better and learn more.
7. Finally, be trustful. A lack of trust is what will be your demise. Humans are social creatures and without trust from peers, we are debilitated. Our potential to accomplish is halved. Be trustful and always trust yourself.
1. Give yourself time to grow and heal. I learned this through personal experiences. I try to "heal" and get better too fast, because I want to be emotionally available for the people in my life if they need me. I noticed that me rushing to better my mental health only made it worse, and I am finally learning to put myself first.
ReplyDelete2. Your feelings are valid. I have noticed that people are dismissing their feelings way too often, including myself. They will say, "I'm sorry, I sound crazy", or "I shouldn't be feeling like this." You need to realize that no matter what the situation is, your feelings are normal.
3. It's okay if all you did today was breathe. Over the summer I became depressed and very unmotivated, and when I didn't do anything besides lay in bed all day, it made me feel worse about myself. I realized that you need time though, and it is okay to go at your own pace.
4. Find your people. My friends are hands down the best people in my life. They are MY people. They feel like home, they are my backbone, they are my heroes. These type of people are rare, so cherish them.
5. You are surrounded by beauty. I don't mean the person who everyone thinks is hot. I mean sunrises, flowers, happy people, caring teachers, to me, these are beautiful things.
6. Believe in yourself. Never belittle your dreams, and never let anyone else belittle them. You will only regret it in the future.
7. Find things that make you happy. This is something my therapist STRESSES. The best thing you can do when you are stressed, sad, scared, or anything else, is to do something you find joy in.
The following things are my 7 creeds I follow by but also do struggle with sometimes.
ReplyDelete1. Strive for happiness
I’m known as a very happy person and although I struggle with it somedays I know that my goal at the end of the day is to find pieces of happiness throughout my day whether that is people or things i try to have as much happiness each day as I can. I don’t think I’ve ever experienced a 100% sad day.
2. Stay positive
This is so important to me and something I’ve been struggling with lately but staying positive is so important. I usually say to myself a lot “it’s a bad day not a bad life”, I also like to remind myself that everything will work out the way it should, everything has a meaning.
3. Treat others with kindness
This is a big one. Believe it or not I wasn’t always as kind as I am today, when I was 10 I was mean when I felt like I needed to be and I hurt people around me, sometimes intentionally and I’m not gonna give my age as an excuse. But from many life experiences I realized that one word can change someone’s day completely and if someone was to be rude to me it would ruin my day and hurt me and I knew i didn’t want anyone feeling that pain like I have and I especially don’t want to be the one who caused it. I don’t have the heart to be rude to anyone and if I ever feel the slightest bit rude I will feel so bad and it will ruin my day. Being kind is something we need more of in this world.
4. Don’t seek revenge
I grew up seeing revenge and seeing hatred. I knew it was wrong and I realized that you are just as bad as the person who hurt you if you are looking to get them back. Don’t put yourself as low as that person because you’re better than that. I realized that seeking revenge is a waste of my time and now instead of having one person hurt ( you) you have just made another person hurt as well.
5. Don’t say negative things about yourself
I struggle with this so so much because I am my biggest enemy. I hurt myself everyday and put myself down, I know it’s not healthy nor is it good for me and I need to love myself because nobody else is going to do it for me. I try to find something good about myself but somedays it’s extremely hard.
6. Don’t hold in your feelings
Oof. Another hard one. I constantly close myself off and close my feelings off. I absolutely cannot stand expressing my feelings to someone because I feel like I am now ruining someone else’s day and hurting somebody else because I am sad and it makes them sad. I also just hate letting people down because people know me as a positive happy person and when I’m not acting like myself or acting like that people get scared and I feel like they get disappointed. I need to remind myself that it’s okay to be sad and show people that and this year I’ve improved with that but I also hide a lot of things I shouldn’t because talking to somebody is very important or else it can lead to a mental breakdown.
7. Appreciate what’s around you
I appreciate many things whether it’s a simple hi how are you or a cracker I literally will most likely cry or my mood will boost because everything means a lot to me and I appreciate a lot. I think about things on a deep level all the time. I always remember how some people aren’t as fortunate as I am and yeah I can feel like everything’s going wrong around me but I remember that I have a roof over my head and I have people who love me everyday. Some people aren’t as fortunate and it breaks my heart thinking about that. I appreciate everything because I know somebody else out there doesn’t have the things I do.
My 7-point creed would be:
ReplyDelete1) Watch how others treat their enemies.
How people act around the people they aren’t fond of can bring out their true nature. This will help you determine if they are the right person for you.
2) Liars will always be liars.
People who do not tell the truth will inevitably lie again. It’s just human nature, and it’s better to be aware of this than to disregard it.
3) Be confident, not cocky.
You should be proud of who you are, but you shouldn’t go around boasting about it.
4) Life is about finding happy mediums.
Be somewhere in between caring too much and caring too little. If you aren’t in the middle, you’ll overwork yourself and stress yourself out.
5) Do what you know is right in your heart.
Occasionally, decisions need to be made with your brain or your heart. Sometimes, the analytical option seems to override the emotional one. In the end, the right choice is almost always the one in your heart.
6) Put yourself in the shoes of other people.
You may never know what someone is going through at home or in their relationships. Try to understand what is happening and why it would hurt them.
7) Take the time to understand others.
Not only does this improve your relationships, but it shows that person that you care enough to ask them about it.
1. Don't let other people's opinions affect the way you see yourself.
ReplyDeleteLots of people tend to care about how people seem them, including myself, but this will help you nowhere in life. Just continue being you and be confident with it.
2. Don't dwell on the sad things in life.
Lately this has been a recurring problem for me and I talked to my mom about it and she told me, I can't let all the sad things in my life become all I focus on, I should focus on those better things and find something to be grateful for each day when I wake up.
3. Communication.
I find communication VERY important in life. With my relationship, friendships, and family I feel as though communication can help relieve that stress off your shoulders and will produce a healthier mindset and better life.
4. Appreciate the small things.
I think that appreciating even the smallest things in life can lead to happiness and feeling grateful much more often.
5. Be your biggest fan.
Everybody is guilty of self-shaming whether or not they wanna admit it. You have to learn to appreciate yourself and love yourself. Confidence is key.
6. Being kind.
Always be kind to others because you never know what they might have going on inside their heads. Even just a simple good morning everyday can make someone feel better.
7. Listen to yourself and not what others say.
Always follow what you think is best for yourself. It's okay to want other opinions or to ask people about what you should do, but at the end of they day you should be making the decision you want instead of what someone else wants you to make.
ReplyDelete1.)Stay confident- what I mean by this is not allow people to second guess myself with something that I feel is great. For me I do this for the most part that’s why a lot of people would call me conceited. I want to do this because getting down on yourself is bad and I wanna be able to raise my head high
2.)Be humble- I know this might sound like I’m contradicting my previous point but I’m not. What I mean by this is don’t go around bragging about good things I have done. Being too confident can lead to cockyness and I don’t want to be that.
3.)Be grateful- It shames me to say that I’m not always grateful for the blessings that I do have. I’ve made it my goal to become more grateful but sometimes I forget how lucky I really am. The reason for me wanting to do this is because I think it will make me a better person.
4.)Figure things out- This is something that I have been taught since I was little. A single mother raising to kids never wanted to hear excuses so whenever things got tough my mom would just say figure it out.
5.)Always do something that makes you happy- For me this is an easy one because I’m ALWAYS either playing soccer or hanging out with lyanni which are two things that make me happy. The reason I want to do this is because even if your day is bad at least there is something you can look forward too
6.)Say what’s bothering me- Sometimes I don’t say what's on my mind because either I dont think it’s really that important or If I do say something then that’s gonna lead to further confrontation. I wanna start doing this because I’m tired of being worried all the time within my own mind.
7.)Put a smile on at least one person's face- The reason for me trying to do this is because I think there is huge importance in making other people happy especially your classmates. If your gonna be spending most of your days with them than it makes sense to make them happy with the idea that they will do the same for you.
1. Never lose sight of what you are, and who you become.
ReplyDelete2. Be thankful, no matter the circumstances. It is honorable to recognize that those around you may not be privileged with the same means.
3. Acknowledge that you are human, and make mistakes. But do not dwell on them, you cannot go forward if you are looking into the past.
4. Learn to forgive. One of the hardest things is forgiveness. Sometimes towards others, sometimes towards yourself. But it should be remembered that it takes far more energy to loath than to pardon.
5. All of the success and awards in the world are not worth a rotten heart.
6. Seek guidance, it is okay to be wrong, and it is okay to not understand. Even if what someone else says helps you comprehend a situation slightly, it is worth every second of that time.
7. Self love. Sometimes noticing the good in others is easier than seeing the good in ourselves. Love who you are, you were born into this world the way you were, it should be no different.
I value a heart of gold. A past blog reviewed the topic of “materialistic items”, my views stand on the fact that a heart can be blackened by all of the riches surrounding it, yet polished from all of the coal.
You can control no one in this world around you, but you can control yourself. No matter the situation, look past what someone else's mistakes are and instead recognize your own. This will always cause less tension rather than the blame game. It is accountability.
People do not affect me, regardless of what the people around me choose to believe. They are not living my life, and quite frankly, if I can barely understand my life who are you to?
My “legacy”, I suppose is, you leave this world how you enter it. Nothing measures greater than your soul.
I have learned a great deal in my short 16 years. One of the most important things for me personally being, do not overthink things. I can take this with me on stage, to the AP exam, to the classroom, and to my friendships. I have a tendency to make things far more difficult, simply by putting too much effort into the curiosity/questioning. I need to gain back that carelessness I used to have, in order to complete my tasks more effortlessly.
I hope throughout the years of my life I will be far more exposed to other people's ideas, in order to help form my own even more.
1. Treat others how you would like to be treated.
ReplyDeleteI was first introduced to this concept back in 2nd grade. They used to play the flag salute and then they would have us say this whole thing relating to treating others how you would like to be treated. So this concept has always been engraved in me. I always try to treat people kindly and I care for them because I don't know what they've been through and how they would feel if I acted some type of way. I know how I would feel if someone was mean to me so I try not to put that on anyone. I believe this is a good concept that you should apply because if everyone did this no one would be mean to anyone or want to hit them or anything. People would actually be considerate.
2. Don’t give up, there’s always a way.
Sometimes people give up because of the stupidest reasons or they are just lazy. Quitting is always easier, thats why people do it. But let me tell you something, the task at hand isn’t always going to be a piece of cake. Yes it’s going to be hard sometimes and it almost seems impossible. But if you keep the mindset that you can do it, that you will complete it, then you will get done. Even if you don’t finish or get to accomplish the task you’ll finish knowing that you put in 110%.
3. Stay Optimistic
I always try to think the best of things and bring out the positive in a situation. It keeps you from getting sad or thinking negative about a situation all the time. When you start to think about something negatively then you’ll start to believe a it. If u believe it then it’ll most likely happen. That’s why you should believe in the best of things. It’ll give you confidence and you’ll feel better about the situation.
4. “Time is money”
Use your time wisely, you only have 24 hours in a day so you should make the most of it. Try be as productive with your time as you can. Don’t be “wasting” your time doing things that aren’t productive in a positive way. Now there are some exceptions like getting a break and chilling with some friends, or if there’s an emergency. All I’m saying is that you should make the most of the time you have because you can’t ever get it back. P.S. my coach always says “time is money” which is where I remember it from.
5. Respect your elders, especially your parents
People that are older than you have been on this earth longer than you which means they have more knowledge about it. Now I’m not talking about someone that’s 1 or 2 years older than you, but someone that’s definitely experienced more than you. They went through more things in the real world so it’s only fair to show them respect. Not only should they respected, but you should listen if they have something to say because it could be knowledge that could be of use to you, negative or positive.
6. Don’t dwell on the past
In sports when you make a mistake or a bad play it can get you and others in a bad mood. It’s not good when you’re around that kind of energy. You should forget about that mistake but also learn from it so it won’t happen again. U should always “keep moving forward” as they say in Meet the Robinsons. But it’s true, worry about what’s next not about what happened.
7. Be humble
I’m much of a calm person because of this. I try to stay humble because it’s not cool to be cocky. No one likes a cocky dude who brags about everything because he wants you to know he’s better than you. But there’s always a right way to celebrate an accomplishment, by being humble. People who are more humble tend to be kinder to others.