For My Kids.
My Dear Children:
There are no words I can say that will make any of this better, make sense of it, or make you forget what has happened. My heart aches for you in ways I hope you never have to feel for people you love. But, I know you do. And in times like these, I tend to seek out words from others that may help me cope with whatever I feel. These are a few of my favorites. Perhaps, this week, if you are feeling up to it, you can post some of your favorites, or even some of your own. This space is for whatever you need. I am always around, never far that I won't hear if you call. For now, though, read on and I hope you find some small measure of comfort, at least for a few minutes.
Love always,
Bunj
Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there, I do not sleep.
I am in a thousand winds that blow,
I am the softly falling snow.
I am the gentle showers of rain,
I am the fields of ripening grain.
I am in the morning hush,
I am in the graceful rush
Of beautiful birds in circling flight,
I am the starshine of the night.
I am in the flowers that bloom,
I am in a quiet room.
I am in the birds that sing,
I am in each lovely thing.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there. I do not die.
I am not there, I do not sleep.
I am in a thousand winds that blow,
I am the softly falling snow.
I am the gentle showers of rain,
I am the fields of ripening grain.
I am in the morning hush,
I am in the graceful rush
Of beautiful birds in circling flight,
I am the starshine of the night.
I am in the flowers that bloom,
I am in a quiet room.
I am in the birds that sing,
I am in each lovely thing.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there. I do not die.
--Mary Frye
For a second you were flying
Like you always wanted to
Now you’ll fly forever
In skies of azure blue
We’ll see your smile in every ray
Of sunshine after rain
And hear the echo of your laughter
Over all the pain
The world’s a little quieter now
The colours have lost their hue
The birds are singing softly
And our hearts are missing you
Each time we see a little cloud
Or a rainbow soaring high
We’ll think of you and gently
Wipe a tear from our eye
Like you always wanted to
Now you’ll fly forever
In skies of azure blue
We’ll see your smile in every ray
Of sunshine after rain
And hear the echo of your laughter
Over all the pain
The world’s a little quieter now
The colours have lost their hue
The birds are singing softly
And our hearts are missing you
Each time we see a little cloud
Or a rainbow soaring high
We’ll think of you and gently
Wipe a tear from our eye
--Victoria Bruce
Speak of me as you have always done.
ReplyDeleteRemember the good times, laughter, and fun.
Share the happy memories we've made.
Do not let them wither or fade.
I'll be with you in the summer's sun
And when the winter's chill has come.
I'll be the voice that whispers in the breeze.
I'm peaceful now, put your mind at ease.
I've rested my eyes and gone to sleep,
But memories we've shared are yours to keep.
Sometimes our final days may be a test,
But remember me when I was at my best.
Although things may not be the same,
Don't be afraid to use my name.
Let your sorrow last for just a while.
Comfort each other and try to smile.
I've lived a life filled with joy and fun.
Live on now, make me proud of what you'll become.
--Anthony Dowson
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ReplyDeleteHow We Survive
ReplyDeleteIf we are fortunate,
we are given a warning.
If not,
there is only the sudden horror,
the wrench of being torn apart;
of being reminded
that nothing is permanent,
not even the ones we love,
the ones our lives revolve around.
Life is a fragile affair.
We are all dancing
on the edge of a precipice,
a dizzying cliff so high
we can't see the bottom.
One by one,
we lose those we love most
into the dark ravine.
So we must cherish them
without reservation.
Now.
Today.
This minute.
We will lose them
or they will lose us
someday.
This is certain.
There is no time for bickering.
And their loss
will leave a great pit in our hearts;
a pit we struggle to avoid
during the day
and fall into at night.
Some,
unable to accept this loss,
unable to determine
the worth of life without them,
jump into that black pit
spiritually or physically,
hoping to find them there.
And some survive
the shock,
the denial,
the horror,
the bargaining,
the barren, empty aching,
the unanswered prayers,
the sleepless nights
when their breath is crushed
under the weight of silence
and all that it means.
Somehow, some survive all that and,
like a flower opening after a storm,
they slowly begin to remember
the one they lost
in a different way...
The laughter,
the irrepressible spirit,
the generous heart,
the way their smile made them feel,
the encouragement they gave
even as their own dreams were dying.
And in time, they fill the pit
with other memories
the only memories that really matter.
We will still cry.
We will always cry.
But with loving reflection
more than hopeless longing.
And that is how we survive.
That is how the story should end.
That is how they would want it to be.
- Mark Rickerby
Fill not your heart with pain and sorrow,
ReplyDeletebut remember me in every tomorrow.
Remember the joy, the laughter, the smiles,
I've only gone to rest a little while.
Although my leaving causes pain and grief,
my going has eased my hurt and given me relief.
So dry your eyes and remember me
not as I am now, but as I use to be.
Because I will remember you all and look on with a smile,
Understand, in your hearts, I've only gone to rest a little while.
As long as I have the love of each of you,
I can live my life in the hearts of all of you.
-- Joey Beighley
A Call From Heaven
ReplyDeleteI lie awake long into the night,
Hoping that maybe you just might
Give me a call to say you're okay
And let me know you made it through the day.
I would give everything that I have
To make you feel not so sad.
I know the pain is sometimes too great,
But the love was something you can never mistake.
I long for the day when I see you again.
Then we can talk about where all we've been.
We can think about all the times we had,
How we've missed each other ever so bad.
I feel like I've been cheated and robbed so blind.
God took you away when I thought you were mine.
Now I'm stuck here and feel so alone
As I sit and wait right beside the phone.
You gave me a life and everything I have.
I couldn't say no, even when I was mad.
You gave me my children that I hold so dear.
You took away everything that I ever feared.
As the hurt seems to fade but the memories are bright,
Maybe I'll see you in a dream tonight.
That's all I can hope for until the day
When were together in heaven for an eternity.
-- Zeb Edington
When you start to feel
ReplyDeletelike things should have
been better this year,
remember the mountains and valleys
that got you here.
they are not accidents
and those moments weren't in vain.
you are not the same
you have grown and you are growing
you are breathing, you are living.
you are wrapped in
endless
boundless
grace.
and things will get better.
there's more to you than yesterday.
- Morgan Harper Nichols
Words left unwritten
ReplyDeleteA box with a lock unfound
If only you were here, safe and sound
Why did you have to go
You left me in a wreck
My heart cannot be sewn
Sadly you can't be brought home
Not even with the latest tech.
I was there with you
When you laid your head to rest
Through the good and the bad
Through the better and the best
I watched as the angels took your life
You flew up into heaven
You flew up to the sky
Even though you left
I felt you were still here
Like you were in my spirit
Like you never went
I know you watch over me
And though I may cry
I am happy you are without pain
I don't ask questions not even "why?"
Everything happens for a reason, right
Or so that's what they say
But is it really true
Or is that just for my dismay
You're in God's hands now
Safe and sound
Don't shed a tear
Don't make a sound
You will never be forgotten
You have touched so many lives
Not just theirs
But especially mine
-Unknown
Source: https://www.familyfriendpoems.com/poem/everything-happens-for-a-reason
They say this, too, shall pass,
They say grief eventually fades.
But those sayings are of little comfort
When you’re living through such sad days.
They say that time heals all,
And this much I know is true.
So hang in there, my dearest friend,
And together we’ll see this through
-Kelly Roper
"We are all dealing with a challenge of some kind.
ReplyDeleteSome of us are just better at hiding it than others."
-Karen Salmansohn
“You’ll get over it…” It’s the clichés that cause the trouble. To lose someone you love is to alter your life for ever. You don’t get over it because ‘it” is the person you loved. The pain stops, there are new people, but the gap never closes. How could it? The particularness of someone who mattered enough to grieve over is not made anodyne by death. This hole in my heart is in the shape of you and no-one else can fit it. Why would I want them to?”
-Jeanette Winterson
"Tears shed for another person are not a sign of weakness. They are a sign of a pure heart."
-José N. Harris